Relationships are so many things. They’re exciting, exhausting, blissful and difficult all at the same time. We often think that disagreements in a relationship mean that something is wrong. When in reality, it’s completely normal. When you spend that much time with someone (especially when you get to be in a long-term relationship), it’s bound to happen. It’s frustrating and sometimes scary, but know there are good things to balance it out.
Empathy and sympathy are two words we hear and speak about often. It is common for people to use either word when trying to describe the way they relate to others. The truth is, there are major differences between empathy and sympathy. Depending on the strategy we choose, it can affect our connections with others and relationships. So, why even bother learning about empathy and sympathy? Here at MindWell NYC and as part of our Daring Way program, we are always looking for ways to improve our connections with others and with each other. Because of this, we'd like to dive a little deeper into empathy and sympathy.
When kids struggle with anxiety or depression, parents tend to blame themselves. What did I do wrong? What could I have done better? The self-doubt continues to spiral. However, a new study finds that children of mindful, self-compassionate parents tend to have lower rates of anxiety and depression. So how can parents have a more self-compassionate attitude and cultivate mindfulness? Let’s find out.
Being a teen isn't easy and being a parent of a teen is no walk in the park either. It’s emotional for a parent knowing their child has prioritized their friends over you and your time spent together has changed. Meanwhile, your teen's brain is going through a crucial development stage that puts their emotions on full blast. When you see them roll their eyes at you or they tell you you’re ruining their life, it’s overwhelming for both the parent and teen to go through this stage. Thankfully, there are some simple things you can tell your teen that will make all the difference.
You might remember from a past blog post that shame is an emotion that we all experience. Based on the work of Dr. Brene Brown, shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging. Examples from Dr. Brown's research include feeling like an outsider (not belonging, hating yourself and feeling like you understand why others hate you too), being in a prison, or having that pit in the bottom of your stomach. To manage shame, one must be able to recognize and understand shame triggers. Once these are identified, you'll be able to develop higher levels of critical awareness when it comes to shame. In addition, you'll be more willing to reach out to others while being able to express how you feel and ask for what you need.