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Parent Coaching at MindWell Psychology NYC, PLLC

Do you have a difficult relationship with your child?

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Is your child particularly difficult to manage? Is it hard for them to behave effectively in school? Have you been told that your child’s attention wanders during class? Are you getting into arguments with your child more than you would like? Does your child say that you don’t understand them? Do you feel disconnected from your child? Is it hard to get on the same page with your partner about parenting? Are you concerned because your child seems to be avoiding you? Maybe your child wishes they could live with a different family. Do you feel like giving up? Maybe your child seems to favor your partner over you. Are you burnt out, overwhelmed, or stressed by your role as a parent? It may be that you just want additional strategies and support to use in your relationship with your child at home.

Many parents feel this way at some time or another. When challenges occur such as having arguments or feeling burnt out, it can be hard to maintain a positive relationship with your child. For example, when your child says something mean to you, this can result in your feeling inadequate, confused, or frustrated. It may be hard for you to watch your child go through something difficult. Whatever you are struggling with, it may be useful for you to learn more skills to maintain a positive relationship, use conflict resolution strategies, communicate effectively, set clear expectations and limits, and reward your child for good behavior.

In addition to the challenges above, there are many myths about being a parent such as “You should always enjoy it,” “Parenting is the best job you could have,” and “You should only love and not feel frustrated with your child.” These myths can leave you feeling stressed, lonely, confused, and even isolated from other parents. The reality is that parenting is hard. Most parents at one time or another might have the thought that “I don’t like my child right now even though I love them” or wish they could just take a break from parenting. Parents might also wish that their child was different. Any of these thoughts or beliefs can be distressing and it is important for parents to have support throughout the parenting process. It can be helpful to understand that most parents experience these thoughts at one time or another.

These are common challenges experienced by most parents.

As your child grows and develops, your role as a parent typically changes as well, which can contribute to some confusion and possible friction in the relationship. You may notice that your parenting style feels different than it used to or that the strategies you utilized successfully in the past are no longer helpful. You may find yourself getting frustrated, short, or less patient in your relationship. During these developmental transitions, changes in your child’s role or your role in the family may also shift, creating tension, discomfort, and making communication more challenging.

In addition to normal growth, change, and development, the demands of everyday life in New York City (work, relationships, multiple caregivers), may make it challenging to focus on improving your relationship with your child. As you experience difficult events in your life or if your child is struggling in theirs, it may be more difficult to communicate effectively or to tolerate the inevitable distress that is a necessary part of parenting a child. Young children are especially vulnerable to challenges in the parenting relationship and their behaviors are heavily influenced by those of the people around them. It is important to receive support and to utilize effective parenting strategies to help your child learn to be as effective as possible during these formative years.

Luckily, if you find yourself feeling stressed or burnt out in your relationship with your child, it is possible to learn new skills and techniques to manage and change their behavior and to improve the relationship. There are many useful tools available that you can learn and practice within the supportive environment of parent coaching therapy.

Parent coaching allows you to learn strategies that you can use to address your child’s unique challenges and still maintain a positive relationship with them.

With years of parenting education and experience, MindWell Psychology NYC, PLLC provides you with a supportive and nonjudgmental space to discuss your concerns and to identify new ways of relating with your child. Our parent coaching team is well-versed in working with challenges of parents whose children live in New York City. We provide therapy solutions based on many years of research and proven effectiveness. We will work to understand the unique challenges you face regarding your child and will also work with you to identify and implement strategies and solutions to make the changes that are possible. In addition, we will help you learn to tolerate distress when there are challenges or problems that may not be able to be changed in the moment.

In your parent coaching work at MindWell Psychology NYC, PLLC, your therapist will help you to identify particular challenges you or your child are experiencing in your relationship. These challenges may include problematic behaviors that you would like to help your child change such as academic issues, problems with friends, difficulties in communicating respectfully at home, or arguing. As you begin to learn and implement new skills, your relationship with your child will become more positive and less focused on criticism.

Using techniques from parent management training, behavioral principles, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), or Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), our parent coaching team will help you to improve your relationship with your child, increase the frequency of behaviors you want to see in your child or in the relationship, and decrease other behaviors that may be problematic. You may notice that you have more effective conversations or communication with your child. For example, they may be willing to share more about their life with you. Throughout the process of participating in parent coaching therapy, you may find that you and your partner are more frequently on the same page than you have been in the past. You may develop an improved ability to tolerate the typical distress that comes with being a parent and learn to accept difficult situations that you may not have control over.

In parent coaching sessions, you and your therapist will focus on the relationship you want to have with your child. During parent coaching work and with the help of your MindWell Psychology NYC, PLLC therapist, you will learn and try new strategies and review how implementation is going at home. You will also discuss how to practice the new techniques and strategies that you’ve learned regularly at home and troubleshoot problems that may make practicing challenging.

Many people have questions about parent coaching.

-The problem is my child, not me. Why should I get support? This is a common question that parents often ask themselves when they are considering seeking additional support. As you know, relationships are complicated and involve more than one person. If your goal is to have a more positive relationship with your child, it is important for both you and your child to learn new strategies to engage more effectively in the relationship. For parents of younger children, your role is even more significant in potentially changing your child’s behavior and you have large influence on your relationship with them. Being a parent is very difficult even in the best situations. At MindWell Psychology NYC, PLLC, we believe that parents can use additional support throughout various stages of development for their child.

-I’ve already tried a lot of strategies that you are probably going to tell me to use and nothing has worked in the past. MindWell Psychology NYC, PLLC offers evidence-based parenting treatments that have been found to be effective. Implementing behavior plans that you have learned in different ways (books, parenting lectures, etc.) can be challenging. Although you may be using the strategies you learned, these tools may not be implemented in the way that they were designed to be used. For example, time out as a strategy is commonly used incorrectly and therefore, most parents don’t believe it works. In reality, if time out is used in the way it was intended, it can be very effective. Your MindWell Psychology NYC, PLLC therapist can help you to troubleshoot any challenges that are getting in the way of successful implementation of techniques. You will also most likely learn some new strategies and skills you have not tried yet that can be implemented at home.

-My child is especially difficult. I do not believe that these techniques will work. Why should I even bother? We know that your relationship with your child can be complicated and that children each have their own unique struggles. In addition, change does not always happen quickly. However, through years of parent coaching experience, we know that even taking small steps towards change can ultimately make a big difference in your long term relationship with your child. Although dramatic change may not be possible at this moment, you and your MindWell Psychology NYC, PLLC therapist can identify and work on taking steps that can lead to a more promising and productive future relationship with your child. Sometimes, the most important skills for parents are skills to help manage distress to get through an extremely hard situation with your child even if things can’t be changed right away.

-How is this different from individual therapy? I already have a therapist. Why do I need additional support? This is another common question that it makes sense to be asking if you are currently in individual therapy. Typically, the focus in individual therapy is working on problems or parts of your own life. In parent coaching therapy, the focus of treatment is generally on the relationship between you and your child. Parent coaching also focuses on helping you to tolerate and manage the challenges of being a parent. Parent coaching therapy is an opportunity for you to focus specifically on your role as a parent and how that role affects you and other people around you. MindWell Psychology NYC, PLLC’s team can work with you to identify your goals that are specific to the relationship with your child and can help keep the focus on improving that relationship.

You Can Improve Your Relationship With Your Child and Help Them to Learn New Behavior as Well

In parent coaching therapy at MindWell Psychology NYC, PLLC, there are many opportunities for you to get additional support, learn strategies to help your child change their behavior, and gain skills to help improve your relationship with your child. Our parent coaching program is built on years of research and experience working with families with similar struggles. We encourage you to reach out and speak to a clinician at MindWell Psychology NYC, PLLC if you have any additional questions about parent coaching or the therapy process. Please contact us at 646-809-5440 with questions or to set up a complimentary 15 minute phone consultation.